July 9 – 1 of 7 1st Merging Science and Spirituality

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(PPT) This is a universe of vibration. As Einstein once observed, “Nothing happens until something moves”-that is, everything vibrates to a measurable frequency. Break the solid world down to smaller and tinier components and you see that what appears to be solid is a dance-a dance of particles and empty spaces. Go to the tiniest of these quantum particles, and you discover cover that it emanated from a source that vibrates so fast that it defies the world of beginnings and endings. This highest/fastest energy is called Source Energy. You and everyone and everything originated in this vibration and then moved into the world of things, bodies, minds, and egos. It was in the leaving of this Source Energy in our body/minds that we took on our entire world of problems, illnesses, scarcities, and fears.  -Wayne Dyer-

 

Good morning again, we are transitioning to a new series called, Manifesting Through the Law of Attraction. Last week we wrapped up our series on the Creation Story by addressing the concept of DIVINE IDEAS. As we get into the LAW OF ATTRACTION, I hope that you will find that there is a close connection between the two.

 

There have been times where I found myself struggling between using metaphysical and biblical principles to teach the law of attraction, and risking alienating those that are turned off by biblical concepts and church or religious type teachings. At the same time, if I only used secular and scientific terms such as Source energy instead of God or Christ, I would risk alienating the people with a strong Bible-based faith. I do not struggle anymore because to do so would be to fall back on the idea of duality and separation which has been for the most part promoted by traditional and organized religion. Instead, I must honor the concept of Unity and Oneness that were taught by Charles and Myrtle Fillmore and other New Thought pioneers.   My purpose in teaching this series is, (PPT)

 

  1. The Law of Attraction is real and it works.
  2. 2. The LOA is based on universal principles much older than Christianity.
  3. 3. You can find these universal principles in the Bible.

 

One of my very favorite authors, Napoleon Hill had this to say on this subject.

 

(PPT) Christianity is the greatest potential power in the world today, because its founder was an intense dreamer who had the vision and the imagination to see realities in their mental and spiritual form before they had been transmuted into physical form. -Napoleon Hill-

 

The first time that I was introduced to the concept that “like attracts like” therefore the name, LAW OF ATTRACTION, was the first time I read, Think and Grow Rich. There was an analogy that could easily be understood in those days. It involved a radio dial, where you literally and very carefully moved this little needle to the frequency that you were wanting to tune in. You had to get it right on the spot, otherwise you would hear static. Of course, precision tuning is now available in the digital age that we live.

 

But the bottom line was that if you wanted to receive the programming of a certain station, all you had to do was dial that frequency. Matching the frequency of that station would pretty much guarantee that you were going to receive that station.

The author continued to explain that our mind and our lives work in the same way. We can choose to tune in our minds to happy thoughts, productive thoughts, energetic thoughts. Among those channels are the I feel good channel, the I am powerful channel, the I can do this channel, and the All things are possible channel. Those are different stations in the receiver of our mind. There are also other channels. We have the sad, channel, the depressed, channel, the, poor me channel, the I am not good enough channel, the nobody likes me channel and so forth. Now, the channels we decide to make our favorites, like we do today, are going to determine the physical reality that we experience in our lives.

 

Friends, this is not some Pollyanna theory. I have seen this work in my life over and over. I am sure you have too. If not, just put it to the test and see for yourself

 

I want to bring back part of the introductory quote by Wayne Dyer:

 

(PPT) It was in the leaving of this Source Energy in our body/minds that we took on our entire world of problems, illnesses, scarcities, and fears. -Wayne Dyer-

 

I find it very interesting that in Unity we quote quite frequently an isolated verse from the book of Job, that says, “you shall decree a thing and it will be established unto you.” (Job 22:28 -KJV-) We quote it to show Biblical support for the power of the spoken word. But we conveniently do not quote the verses that come right before. These are some of them: (PPT)

 

“Submit to God and be at peace with him;
in this way prosperity will come to you.
22 Accept instruction from his mouth
and lay up his words in your heart.
23 If you return to the Almighty, you will be restored:
If you remove wickedness far from your tent (JOB 22:21-23)

 

This does not mean that God’s love is conditional. That would imply separation. This simply means that we must consciously and intentionally match our vibration to that of Source Energy, or Spiritual Energy, Divine Spirit, and so forth. It’s about being in alignment with God. What is that vibration? Perfect love, peace, wisdom, strength power etc., etc.

 

At one point, we were one with God, or Source Energy. Later we embraced the ways of the ego, personality, or the carnal mind. And we forgot how to be one with Source Energy.

 

For those that are not used to hearing these kinds of teachings and find them a little bit too far out, we can find the same concept in the Allegory of Genesis when Adam and Eve were expelled from the Garden of Eden.

 

My purpose during this series is also to demystify the Law of Attraction. While is good to know about scientific principles and Biblical principles that support this powerful law, I will show you simple and practical ways to get this law to start working for you immediately.

I love it when the Universe provides me with a life experience that I can use in my Sunday message. Just yesterday I was visiting with a patient in the hospital. She shared with me that a cat scan a revealed a 12-centimeter mass in one of her lungs, which was communicated to her by her lung doctor. She immediately made some adjustments in her diet like cutting off sugar, but she began to use visualization techniques to see the mass shrinking and ultimately dissolving and disappearing. About 6 to 7 months after that she had to have another cat scan for an unrelated condition. The same lung doctor came into her room and told her that he had compared both cat scans and the mass was no longer there.

 

Folks, our natural state is one of perfect health. Our natural state is one of perfect peace. Our natural state is one of abundance. Once again, all that is required is that we recognize that we come from Source-Energy, or that we were created in the image and likeness of our Creator. Whether you are inspired by Scripture or by science, there is enough evidence to support that everything is energy that is constantly vibrating and all we need to do is match the vibration of Source-Energy, or align yourself with the thought of God, to create and manifest whatever your desire.

 

Napoleon Hill, said, whatsoever the human mind can conceive, it can achieve. Jesus taught that whatsoever you ask in prayer BELIEVING IT, you shall receive it. An Aramaic scholar that I used to know taught that the Aramaic word for prayer literally means, to catch and trap God thoughts. How do we do that? By intentional, prayer and meditation. How are these two related to the Law of Attraction? This is the subject of next week’s lesson. God Bless.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

July 2 Divine Ideas

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Just as day was breaking, Jesus stood on the shore; yet the disciples did not know that it was Jesus. Jesus said to them, “Children, do you have any fish?” They answered him, “No.” He said to them, “Cast the net on the right side of the boat, and you will find some.” So they cast it, and now they were not able to haul it in, because of the quantity of fish. (John 21, 4-6)

 

 

Good morning. Today we are beginning to wrap up the Creation story series. The last two days of Creation is all about Divine Ideas. What exactly is that, we are about to find out.

 

Just a quick background for those that are just joining us. We have talked about each day of Creation symbolizing divine ideas or the spiritual equivalent for something the either manifested or was used later. First came light or illumination. That was followed by Faith or the Creation of the Firmament. The divine idea of imagination came later, symbolized by the separation of the water from the land, and finally, will and understanding showed up represented by the creation of the two big lights.

 

In the fifth day’s creation ideas of discrimination and judgment are developed. The fishes and fowls represent ideas of life working in mind, but they must be properly related to the unformed (seas) and the formed (earth) worlds of mind. -Charles Fillmore, Mysteries of Genesis.

 

Ok, enough of head stuff. Let’s find out what are Divine IDeas and how to apply them in our day to day lives. After all, that is what practical spirituality is; its about using Truths to make us more prosperous healthy, peaceful, etc, etc.

 

To be able to use divine ideas, we must first understand what a divine idea is. Let us remember that, everything emanates out of Divine Mind in the form of perfect ideas. We have been talking about Divine Order as the way, Spirit creates. First Mind, which has always existed and is eternal, then and Idea in mind and finally an expression. MIND, IDEA, EXPRESSION.
 

Now, we must accept as a fact that in Spirit, in Divine Mind, in God, however you wish to call it, there is only perfection. Therefore it makes sense to deduce that the ideas that emanate out of Divine Mind, are also perfect. Now what are those ideas and how do they impact us?

 

Well, for a moment let’s establish the character of God, from which Divine Ideas emanate. We must once and for all do away with the concept of a human God and adopt the concept of God as Principle.

God as Principle is the unchangeable UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, WISDOM, STRENGTH, POWER, SUBSTANCE, LIFE.  Principle does not occupy space or is limited by time or matter. It exists as the underlying Cause of everything that exists.

 

Ok, now, lets take for example the Divine Idea of Health. Health or perfect health is the word used to describe a Reality, with capital R and the true estate of us humans as visible expressions of God. I want you to focus on the idea of health for just a moment, particularly if you or someone you know is facing a health challenge of any kind. For a moment, just get rid of any concerns about sickness. No one is going to take them away from you; they will be there anytime you want to pick them up again.

 

In the scripture in the beginning, the apostles had been fishing all night and had cast their nets on the left side of the boat. Now the boat, like any dwelling represents our consciousness . Jesus tells them to cast their netbooks on right side, which is representative of the right side of the brain. The left side deals with numbers, calculations and logic. The right side deals with creativity, spirituality and faith. The fish are divine ideas.

 

Now in this exercise, do not think about a particular person or condition. Just think about the Divine Idea of Health, perfect health. Mae Rowland, a former director of Silent Unity used to say, It is your birthright to be healthy. Well, now that I think about it, we used sometimes the term, Our Divine Inheritance. How do we get our Divine Inheritance? We get it in the form of these Divine Ideas.

 

Let’s get back to contemplating the Divine Idea of Health. In doing so, we can create statements affirming this Divine Idea. For example:
 

  1. I am one with Divine Health
  2. Only perfection touches every cell of my body
  3. I am whole and perfect
  4. Every cell of my body vibrates with perfect health

 

That’s the way to work on a divine idea. It is also important to understand that, Divine IDeas are never exhausted or depleted. Just the opposite is true. The more we draw upon them, the more they seem to be available for you.

 

Now, in many cases, when you start working on these Divine Ideas, by the simple action of Cause and Effect, you may start feeling a little better. It does not always happen, but it does happen. The key is to stick with it regardless of the appearances. Remember we should not judge by appearances, but rather we should judge with righteous judgment. What is that? The fact that it is our Divine Inheritance to be perfect whole and healthy.

 

In Scripture (Matthew 5:48) there is an invitation from Jesus that says, Be perfect as your Heavenly Father is perfect. Is this an invitation not to make any mistakes, of course not. First, the word that was translated as perfect could have been translated as WHOLE or COMPLETE. Also, Jesus was actually quoting Leviticus 20 where it says, Be Holy because I am the Lord your God. The word Holy comes from the same root as the word WHOLE. What kind of wholeness are we talking about in the context of the Divine Idea of Health? We are talking about wholeness of MIND, wholeness of Body, and wholeness of Spirit.

When we contemplate this Divine Idea of Health, we must touch all three.   I EXPRESS DIVINE HEALTH IN MIND BODY AND SPIRIT .

 

Now, let us switch to the Divine Idea of Substance. We all have heard of the phrase, ‘the rich get richer” Most of us do not like that idea. That idea is a cliche, yet, it is based on a certain reality. We are not debating here if the person has morals, is good, bad, worthy or unworthy. The fact is that somewhere along the line, this person connected with the substance-idea. He or she may not have called it that, but a connection what that divine idea was made. Because of that connection and that person’s will and determination, riches were manifested. That person could have called it the Real Estate Business or the oil business, but those are just channels of Divine Substance. So the fact is that the richer get richer and the poorer get poorer. This made me think of one of the the most misunderstood and frowned upon verses of scripture, which is this:

 

Matthew 13:12

For to the one who has, more will be given, and he will have an abundance, but from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away.

 

Now, if we interpret this literally, we say that it makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. But how about metaphysics to the rescue. Let’s rewrite it.
 

For those who have grasped the concept of the Divine Substance, more will be given and will have an abundance, but for the ones who have not grasped that concept, even what they have will be taken away. (GATC)

 

Now be aware that grasping the concept of Divine Substance, entails grasping it in its entirety, meaning that this Substance is unlimited and cannot be depleted. That also means that in cannot be hoarded and it needs to be put in circulation.

 

In the same way that we used the Divine Idea of health, we can reflect or meditate upon the idea of unlimited substance. If you were experiencing apparent lack, set that aside for the time being, do not think about the challenge or the situation. Reflect upon these affirmations:
 

  1. I am one with Divine Substance.
  2. Spirit is my Source and Supply
  3. Freely I give, abundantly I receive.
  4. The riches of the Universe are mine now
  5. There is more from where that came from.

 

Next week I am starting an original series, in which we are going to take the spiritual foundation of Divine Ideas and take them to the next level by exploring, Manifesting Through the Law of Attraction.   I am really exited about this. Start working on a list of the things that you want to see in your life. I invite you to think on paper, Write it all down without thinking of any limitations whatsoever.

 

Le us all manifest by applying The Law of Attraction. God bless you, see you next week.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

TODAY, July 2 – Divine Ideas

Consciously using DIVINE IDEAS is different from POSITIVE THINKING. Positive Thinking only, is willingly using the power of the mind towards a given purpose or goal. It is also about programing those thoughts into our subconscious mind.

Using DIVINE IDEAS requires the recognition of a Higher Power (God, Spirit, Divine Mind) and appropriating the ATTRIBUTES (Love Strength, Wisdom, Substance, Life, etc.) of Such Power; it also involves ALLOWING Such power to find expression in every aspect of our being.

The more we consciously use DIVINE IDEAS, the more we see visible expressions that with God, all things are possible.

June 25: Understanding

The last time we were together, I was going over the creative process and how such process is represented in the Creation story. When I use the term, creative process, I am talking about how you and I shape our own lives and destinies with our thoughts, our words, and our actions. Some of it is by design; most of it is by default. And what do I mean by that?
Our minds create the same way that Divine Mind creates. As a matter of fact, since we are visible expressions of Divine Mind, it is one mind. We create in the same order that Divine Mind creates, which is what we call Divine Order. And that is, MIND, IDEA AND EXPRESSION.
If you would like to catch up with the previous days of the Creation Story, I suggest that you go to our website and in the blog section, find the previous talks. We talked about light or illumination, we talked about the firm foundation of faith, or the firmament, we talked about imagination and the last time we met, we talked about will, which went together with understanding. I thought it was necessary to give a full lesson to understanding. I suggest that perhaps today’s lesson is the most important of the series; if we get understanding, we should be able to grasp the secret to all sorts of good things, such as abundance, prosperity, etc. As I was writing this message, I was reminded of a conversation that took place between Spirit and Solomon, the wisest man that ever lived. Scripture says that God told Solomon to ask for whatever he wanted. And this is what Solomon responded as recorded in 1st Kings 3:9:
(PPT)Give me an understanding heart so that I can govern your people well and know the difference between right and wrong. For who by himself is able to govern this great people of yours?” (1st Kings 3:9)
There are certain things that are crucial to us getting understanding. The first thing to get out of the way is that we have been led to believe in a Universe of many parts; God, up in heaven, us down here on earth, and hell below. And even though most of us do not believe in that and have embraced an OMNIPRESENCE point of view, when things get tough, we tend to revert to the teachings we grew up with. Is as though we have failed to bring all together, which is what religion should do. (PPT) The word religion comes from the Latin, religare, which literally means, to bind together, oneness, wholeness and unity. Another thing that we need to get out of the way is that the activity of God is not dependent on the church, the clergy or even religion. This is what the Apostle Paul had to say about that:
(PPT) “The God who made the world and everything in it, being Lord of heaven and earth, does not live in shrines made by man, nor is he served by human hands, as though he needed anything, since he himself gives to all men life and breath and everything.… Yet he is not far from each one of us, for ‘In him we live and move and have our being?” Acts 17:24-25, 27-28
At the root of understanding, there must be the grasping of the concept of invisible substance. We talk a lot here about molding the invisible into the visible. In Hebrews, we read that faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. There is that invisible component again. And Charles Fillmore tells that that faith is the perceiving power of the mind linked to the power to shape the invisible substance; and, once again, there is that invisible factor.
So let’s take this one thing at a time.
1. We are never separate from God, Spirit, Divine Mind, Loving Spirit, Loving Mind, etc., because in God we live, move and have our being.
Now, let’s explore a bit further this invisible stuff that we call Substance. The word, literally means, that which stands under. But it is not a physical component. Nowadays we know about atoms and such minute particles at the quantum level. But what scientists a focusing on is the invisible stuff between the most minute particles. They cannot explain it but they know it is there. This is what Eric Butterworth has to say about that:
(PPT) But what is not commonly known is that the focus of research is now being centered, not on the minute particles of the material, but on what is called “the reality of the nonmaterial.” The space between them is now considered more important than the particles themselves. In this space is to be found a field of force that holds the particles in their orbits. It is even being conjectured that the particle is not just acted upon by the force, but it is the force acting as a particle. Certainly, this has application in our relation to God: We are not just acted upon by God, but we are the activity of God expressing as us.
Butterworth, Eric. Spiritual Economics: The Principles and Process of True Prosperity (p. 15). Unity School of Christianity. Kindle Edition.
Wallace D. Wattles in the Science of Getting Rich, expresses it this way.
(PPT) There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe. A thought in this substance produces the thing that is imaged by the thought. Man can form things in his thought, and by impressing his thought upon formless substance can cause the thing he thinks about to be created.

The more I look at this, if we are going to have a productive understanding of this stuff, we need to convince ourselves of ,(PPT) number one, the existence of this invisible substance number two, that God, Spirit, or Divine Mind, etc. and that substance are one and the same. Number three, we have access and can connect with that invisible substance ANYTIME, ANYWHERE. And number four, through the spiritual faculties of Faith and Imagination, we have the power to form a thought that will be planted in that Substance as an idea and eventually come into manifestation or visibility. Jesus knew this and that’s how he could heal people and was able to feed a multitude.
We have been taught to believe that Jesus Christ was given unique and special powers because he was the only begotten son of God. But the true only begotten was the Christ, or the image and likeness of God that was IN Jesus. But that image and likeness of God, is also in you and in me. Otherwise, why would Jesus make the bold statement that the things that he did we could do and even greater things?

We have also been condition to believe that through faith God will provide, but what do we mean? We will address Faith fully in another lesson, but for now, let us see these words by Eric Butterworth:
(PPT) Faith doesn’t influence God “out there” to send riches to fill our needs “down here.” Faith is the spiritual capacity by which we may form and shape this ever-present basic element of Spirit-substance. Eric Butterworth, Spiritual Economics

Someone once said, I might be broke, but I am not poor. I believe that such statement summarizes today’s lesson. During apparent lack, there is the all-ness of an All-providing Substance. We just need to acknowledge its existence and mold it into visibility. I like the analysis that Eric Butterworth makes about Jesus statement, In the World, you’ll have tribulation, but do not fear because I have overcome the world. Was Jesus saying that he had special powers to do the things he did? I don’t think so. He was implying that we live in two worlds, not in succession but concurrently. Yes, there is sickness and health, prosperity and lack and so forth; (PPT) But at the same time we also live in the Universe, the realm of the constancy and stability of a basic substance that stands beneath every human experience. Thus it can be said (and should be) that there is an Allness within every illness, an All-Sufficiency within every appearance of lack, and the “joy of the Lord” within every moment of sorrow. -Eric Butterworth

The remaining two days of creation deal with the concept of divine ideas. Next week we will wrap up the series and begin our new series on Manifesting Through the Law of Attraction.

June 11 WILL

We are continuing our Summer series on the 7 days of Creation. As we have, mentioned before, in Unity we take the Bible seriously but not literally. As such, we teach that in the first Chapter of Genesis, which is allegorical in nature, God is creating the spiritual ideas that are the foundation for a future manifestation.

So, in the first chapter of Genesis, God is basically laying down the foundational ideas for the creation of the physical world.

We began the first day with the light, which stood or stands for illumination or clarity, then came faith, symbolized by the firmament.

Last week, on the third day of creation we spoke about IMAGINATION and how nothing can be created unless is imagined before.
Today on the fourth day we read: On the fourth day, “God said, Let there be lights in the firmament of heaven to divide the day from the night.” Charles Fillmore associates this with the twin powers of will and understanding. The key element here is the realization that the divine light already (and eternally) present must be both focused and reflected for the creative process to move forward.

So basically we have two spiritual ideas today. Those ideas are WILL and UNDERSTANDING. How are we going to use those two in our own creative process.

Let me begin by sharing a couple of thoughts about the spiritual idea of will: Charles Fillmore says that the will is the executive director of the mind. Without our personal will we would be puppets just reacting to a some force that exercises control over us.

Now, let us keep in mind, that even though it is good to have a strong personal will, It will pay off if we learn to ALIGN our will with the will of God.
That of itself, establishes the difference between willfulness, which is the exercise of our personal will and our willingness to align our will with Divine will
SO, IGUESS, THE QUESTION IS HOW EXACTLY DO I DO THAT?

We might get an idea from our Master Teacher, Jesus.

Earlier Song. Come to me
MATTHEW 11:28

(PPT) Jesus answered them, “Do you finally believe? In fact, you’re about to make a run for it—saving your own skins and abandoning me. But I’m not abandoned. The Father is with me. I’ve told you all this so that trusting me, you will be unshakable and assured, deeply at peace. In this godless world you will continue to experience difficulties. But take heart! I’ve conquered the world.”

I have chosen this version from a contemporary English version of the Bible called, The Message. This is a crucial time in the life of Jesus’s friends and disciples. I believe that is also an awesome illustration of willfulness versus willingness. This is at the time that the end is near. Jesus clearly sees that his friends are going to exercise willfulness by making a run for it, by getting out of Dodge, if you know what I mean.

On the other hand Jesus words, “In this godless world you will continue to experience difficulties. But take heart! I’ve conquered the world.”, is an example of surrendering to the Divine while at the same time acknowledging that sometimes life is not pretty. Yet, in spite of the appearances, in spite of the fact that he is about to be subject to torture and death, he says: In the world you have tribulation but, take heart, I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD, says another translation.

Willfulness is necessary to navigate through life and accomplish things. I am not knocking the use of our will. Linda Martella writes in Divine Audacity:

(PPT) However, when wielded in a vacuum or for mere personal gain, willfulness becomes a negative attribute, the opposite of allowing.

Charles Fillmore, the co founder of Unity cautioned:

(PPT) “Stubborn, willful, resistant states of mind congest the life flow” -The Twelve Powers of Man,

Back in 2000, while working as an executive head of a department at Unity Village, I was informed that I would not be put through the ministerial school as part of their in house leadership program, as they had promised 4 years before when I was hired as as head of the Audiovisual department. This was one of the worse disappointments that I had experienced until then. I was also very angry. I had held my end of the deal. They had not.
The exercise of my willfulness said that I needed to fight for was owed to me and if I did not get it, I could consider legal action. Yet, after a few days of intense grieving and prayer, I chose to allow Spirit to be the guiding force behind my actions. The guidance I received was to finish my Licensed Teacher degree, which I did. By then Alinda would have her ordination and we could return to Orlando, which we did. I could enter later the Field Ordination Program, which I did. I resigned in good standing and with a little tenure in September of 2001. Little did I know that within a year, there were massive layoffs and my department was among those that were closed. 4 years later I was surprised with a letter saying that I had worked there long enough to be vested and that I had a little over $25,000 to cash in or roll over into a retirement account. I chose the latter, of course. This is and example of what I call the railroad track approach. In a rural setting where there are no gates at the tracks, the advise is to STOP, LOOK AND LISTEN.

We stop before allowing are strong personal will to move us to do something that we can regret later. We calmly LOOK at the whole picture. We ask questions; we ponder if-then scenarios. Finally, we get real quiet and we allow the still small voice within, we allow our DIVINE SELF, we allow our own divine nature to guide us and direct us

How do we distinguish between our personal will and the will of God. One of the first things that come to mind is that when we are trusting the will of God, we are not attached to the results; someone has said that such is the true benchmark of a spiritually advanced person.

When we are trusting the will of God, we are usually willing to become still and in prayer seek the still small voice. How is the will of God revealed to us? In different ways. Sometimes its just a feeling. At times is the advise or counsel of a friend. Other times we are looking at some serendipitous encounter with someone. Sometimes we know that we know.

I cannot emphasize enough the fact that we must watch out for who’s doing the works, our ego or our divine persona.

Some New Thought thinker said that when we fulfill our own divine nature, we fulfill the will of God. It makes sense to me; if we pursue acting 24-7 from an awareness of our oneness with the divine, we will find that we will live with less stress and will be able to manifest abundance, prosperity and peace of mind.

The Fourth day of Creation is about these two important lights, WILL and Understanding. We have discussed will today.

Emily Cady in Lessons in Truth, talks about understanding faith versus blind faith. The next time I see you, we will se how both of these are valid in our creative process. In the mean time, whatever you ask for in prayer, aligning your will with God’s will, make sure that you end your prayer by saying, Thank You, God, for this, or something better.

This Coming Sunday June 4

 

We recognize there is only one presence and one power. We understand that abundance and prosperity are our birthright…but there’s a missing piece that keeps us from fully enjoying the life we would love…

Discover “What’s Next?!” this Sunday with guest speaker and fellow truth students Diazina Mobley and Kristy Nevils.

Imagination: The Found Link May 28

INTRO Today, the world of quantum physics confirms that the universe is made of formless (spirit) energy, and that particles (that is, things) do not originate from particles (things). Everything springs from something that is akin to your imagination. You can’t touch, taste, see, hear, or smell it. It has no boundaries. You can’t prove it with mathematical formulas or scientific verification. Yet we all know that it exists.

Dyer, Wayne W. (2012-02-28). Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting (p. 71). Hay House. Kindle Edition.

 

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Good morning, everyone. Last week I touched briefly on the Creation Story. Before I go any further on this, it is important to remind ourselves that we are children of God, created in God’s image and after the likeness of God.

 

What that means is that we, follow the same process that God used to create the world. In Unity we sometimes refer to the Creator of Universe as Divine Mind, Omnipresent Mind, etc. We also, use the expression, DIVINE ORDER. And what precisely is Divine Order? Divine Order is precisely the order in which GOD CREATES and that Divine Order is (PPT) MIND, IDEA, and EXPRESSION.

 

In other words, everything originates in DIVINE MIND, or God, however you want to call it. Now, before something can come into visibility, there has to be a spiritual equivalent or a mental equivalent (Emmet Fox used to call it) or an IDEA in the mind of God; that is why the Divine Order is MIND, IDEA an EXPRESSION.

 

In the creation story, we have precisely that, God is laying out the various Divine Ideas that are establishing the foundation for a future expression.

 

We discussed that in the first day, Divine Mind said, Let There be Light. That light was a symbol of illumination and understanding. In the second day, we Infinite Mind created a firmament, which we discussed that such firmament was the spiritual idea of faith.

 

In The third day—“Let the waters under the heavens be gathered together unto one place, and let the dry land appear”   . —Introduces the power of imagination. Out of infinite possibility we begin to (PPT) choose, organize and arrange according to our personal creative choices.

 

 

THE CREATION STORY IS A BLUEPRINT

OF THE SPIRITUAL IDEAS THAT NOT ONLY PRECEDED THE CREATION OF THE WORLD;

These same spiritual ideas can precede our

Own creations, if we follow the process.

 

In the book, The Divine Matrix which talks about this bridge between science and spirituality and the field of Quantum Physics. Well, with our imagination, We begin to observe our own creations and become Participants in it as opposed

to simple bystanders or mere spectators.

First, there is (PPT) light, in other words, we gain some illumination or understanding about what is it that we wish to create or bring into manifestation. Now that is going to be accompanied and fueled by FAITH, a very important step in the process. Now we are going to use the power of our imagination to create a clear picture in our minds eye of our desire.

 

Here is where we begin to separate the people that achieve from the people that just dream.   Yes because all this sounds pretty cool, but I am going to tell you that it does require work, it requires discipline, it requires dedication.

 

Napoleon Hill in his book THINK AND GROW RICH talks about a BURNING DESIRE. Most of us do not get to that point. Because if we had a burning desire to be prosperous or be healthy, we would be doing the things that we know would bring such results.

 

So in the words of Neville, (PPT) it is important that we use our imagination not only to see with clarity and with every detail whatever our desire is but to infuse feeling and emotion to this wish and see the wish already fulfilled.   –Neville-

 

I find it interesting that Neville, wrote about this in the 1930 and Greg Braden in the 21 century is telling us that feelings and emotion are the language of the Divine Matrix. And of course, we know that the Divine Matrix is the Omnipresent Divine Mind from which all things are created.   Jesus also said, whatsoever you ask BELIEVING. In this believing, its important to know, that if we really believe, we should be able to paint a clear picture of what we want, see it in front of us every day feel and act as if already fulfilled and you will transform the invisible substance into visibility.

For the context of today’s lesson let us rule out that IMAGINATION IS NOT DAY DREAMING.   Imagination is a faculty of the mind that has the power to shape the invisible into the visible..   And who is the one that can do that? YOU AND I, IF WE BELIEVE

 

25 years ago when I picked up my first book by Neville and the first few chapters basically explained that our faculty of Imagination was God working through us. It flat out said, Our Imagination IS God. I put the book down and never picked it up again until a few years ago.

 

Doesn’t it make sense to assume that this innate faculty that we all have, that sees reality in our minds when that reality is not visible yet, doesn’t it make sense to understand that this faculty is the DIVINE SELF IN US?

 

(PPT) Disregard appearances, conditions, in fact all evidence of your senses that deny the fulfillment of your desire. Rest in the assumption that you are already what you want to be, for in that determined assumption, you and your Infinite Being are merged in creative unity, and with your Infinite Being (God), all things are possible (The Power of Awareness, 63– 64).   Neville

 

Let me remind you that this is not NEW AGE or Unity mumble jumble.

In Scripture we read. Isn’t it written in your Law, YE ARE GODS?   In Scripture we read, The secret of the ages is Christ in you the hope of Glory. We also read in Scripture that we live, move and have our being in GOD?

 

 

I am God doesn’t refer to your body or your EGO in any way. It refers to the birth less, deathless, changeless Spirit that remains in all the changing forms your body takes every moment of your temporary life here on Earth.

 

I read somewhere that many of these great achievers of history, such as Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Edison, etc., they all had one thing in common. They were convinced that a higher power was working through them and this higher power acted as a driving force in everything they did and accomplished.

 

In any creative process, we need to constantly evaluate whether we have a clear understanding of what we are doing and whether we are acting based on our own personal will or God’s will. Sometimes, is necessary to discern God’s will from ours.

 

On the fourth day, “God said, Let there be lights in the firmament of heaven to divide the day from the night.” Charles Fillmore associates this with the twin powers of will and understanding. I think the key element here is the realization that the divine light already (and eternally) present must be both focused and reflected for the creative process to move forward.

And that is the subject of my next lesson.

Faith: A Matter of Shift May 21 2017

 

INTRO

 

(PPT) Then God said, “Let there be a firmament in the midst of the waters, and let it divide the waters from the waters.” 7 Thus God made the firmament, and divided the waters which were under the firmament from the waters which were above the firmament; and it was so. 8 And God called the firmament Heaven. So the evening and the morning were the second day.

 

In the English language, we use a phrase quite often, and I am talking about the phrase, AS A MATTER OF FACT. Some synonyms for AS A MATTER OF FACT are ABSOLUTELY, INDEED, LITERALLY, REALLY VERY, IN FACT, AND IN REALITY, among others. What does this have to do with today’s lesson? Well, I hope that will become clear by the end of this talk which, AS A MATTER OF FACT, is called. FAITH, A MATTER OF FACT.

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Now, you may say, common, Coco, what do you mean by saying that Faith is a matter of fact? Well. Sit back, and relax as I try to also answer that question for you, AS A MATTER OF FACT

SATISFACTION.

 

As we know, in Unity we take the Bible seriously but not literally. Once example is the Creation story. In the LET THERE BE LIGHT of creation we do not see it as a reference to the sun and the moon; that came much later. But this was the very special light responsible for the rest of creation. In the opening lines of the Gospel of John there is a reference to “ Without this light nothing was made” . (PPT) This light is representative of illumination, intelligence and wisdom. All three of those things are necessary to have a Creation.

 

It is important that we look at the story of Creation in Genesis, not only as an allegory, but also as the creation of spiritual ideas that later will be underlying the manifest or visible creation. You may want to look at it as movements within DIVINE MIND.

 

The second day’s creation is the second movement of Divine Mind. The central idea in this day’s creation is the establishment of a firmament in the “midst of the waters” dividing the “waters from the waters.” “Waters” represent unexpressed possibilities in mind.

 

The first step or “day” in creation involves “light” or understanding, and the second step, faith in the knowing quality of mind.

 

Faith is this quality of mind that will be the foundation, together with the light for everything else. I find it interesting that thousands of years later, Jesus says to Peter, YOU ARE PETER (PETROS, which means ROCK), and on this rock I will build my church. Peter, is the disciple that represents faith. In genesis is called a firmament, in the Gospels is a rock; It is still the foundation for any visible creation.

 

 

 

 

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Charles Fillmore, the co founder of Unity defines faith as the perceiving power of the mind, linked with the power to shape substance.

 

Let is look at this definition: (PPT) Perceiving power.   Power to perceive. To perceive what?   The activity of God as invisible substance. It sees God, Spirit, Divine Mind, in everything through everything as everything. Even when your good has not visibly manifested, you know that is there. This is when you know that you know.

 

Linked with the power to shape substance.     This is that power to become not only an observer in the creative process, but a participator, as some of our Quantum scientists have been telling us. This is when we know that we can allow the God that is in you and me to do the creating.

 

Again, I remind you, this is not an ego thing. This is the time for you and me to realize that we are the individual expressions of God’s consciousness. IT IS NOT I DOING THE WORKS, BUT GOD WITHIN ME. This is when the power of BELIEF comes into play knowing that you know that God is already bringing into visible expression whatever it Is you want.

 

 

 

I love this quote by the Buddha:

(PPT) “Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many, or merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason, then accept it and live up to it.”

Greg Braden says in The Spontaneous Healing of Belief that ” Belief is our acceptance of what we have witnessed, experienced or know for ourselves.

 

Belief is based on intellectual knowledge. Faith is based on spiritual knowledge and spiritual trust.

 

In the 1800’s there was a disease prevalent in those days; it was called, Consumption, later known as Tuberculosis. People believed that it ran in families so if someone got it, everyone else in that family would get it to. And guess what, everyone did.   But the point that I am trying to make here is that now we know that TUBERCULOSIS IS NOT hereditary. Now we know that, but THEN, people BELIEVED differently. It was their belief that shaped their reality.

 

(PPT)And of course we would not be standing here in a Unity church, if Myrtle Fillmore, the co founder of Unity had not changed her intellectual belief about Tuberculosis and replaced it with her spiritual belief that SHE WAS A CHILD OF GOD therefore she did not inherit sickness. Eventually, that spiritual belief also became an intellectual belief and she knew that she knew and no one could make her believe differently that she had not inherit this disease. She was told at age 40 that she only had 6 months to live, She lived to be 87. She changed her belief. She became a participator in her own creation; she altered her own DNA by transforming her mind that only believed in disease to one that only believed in health.

 

(PPT) Hebrews 11 says that Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (KJV)

 

This first part of the definition of faith, the substance of things hoped for, is rather interesting. The word substance, literally means, that which stands under. That which supports, that which is the building block, that which sustains. So basically, faith, is not something that you have or you do not have; because faith is a spiritual idea, faith is synonymous of consciousness. Remember the firmament in creation? There’s got to be consciousness in order to be any kind of visible manifestation. In the beginning was the heavens and the earth. (In the beginning was the invisible consciousness of God. Hello?

As a matter of fact, around these parts, we have been calling that consciousness, Divine Mind, Divine Matrix, Spirit Divine, Father Mother God, etc., etc.

So how can Faith be something that is, A MATTER OF FACT?

Maybe this will make sense. Have you heard of the term, REVERSE LOOKUP?   You know, you enter a number on the Internet and, when it works, it will look up who that number belongs to.

 

Well, following that line of thought, all you had to do is look at everything that is visible around you. It doesn’t matter how much you look at it or try to explain it in any other way. Anything that you can see, before it became a visible manifestation, it was first an IDEA IN SOMEONE’S MIND. And that Idea was the result of illumination (LIGHT) and the idea had to planted FIRMLY in consciousness, in the ether, in order to become a reality. The moral of this story? FAITH CREATES, because faith and consciousness, the Divine Matrix are one and the same.

 

When we internalize this, spiritual concept, then it becomes a belief and when it becomes a belief, it will do the creating for you ACCORDING TO YOUR FAITH.

 

SPONTANEOUS HEALING

 

So, the people in the 1800’s believed in some stuff that was not good for them, like the false idea that Tuberculosis was hereditary. They got sick and died young. They stopped dying when they began to change their beliefs.

 

So my question to you this morning, is What are the beliefs that you hold about yourself, about your family, about your job, about your talents and abilities, about your prosperity… What are some of those beliefs that until now are keeping you for expressing your full potential? An inventory is necessary and then it is necessary to change the limiting beliefs for empowering beliefs. It is necessary to change whatever has not worked for you.

 

You may say, but Coco, I have believed this or that way for years. How am I going to change that? It is easier than you think and all the tools that you need are right within you, and you can access them any time if your simply use the power of your imagination, which is the third day of creation and that is the subject of next week’s lesson.

Women of Power (May 140 Happy Mother’s Day

Good Morning and Happy Mother’s Day. Today we are honoring mothers and motherhood. We are honoring those that have played the role of a mother to someone and those that continue to play that role. Motherhood in addition of giving birth to another being is also the birthing of and idea, a concept or a religious movement.

 

While seeking inspiration for today’s message, the term, woman or women of power came to mind. I have perhaps resonated with that term, perhaps because my own mother was a woman of power who while facing a terminal illness was the principal of a school with double enrollment and a single mother. It was her attitude towards life who help forge the character of my brothers and I, for which I will be eternally grateful

 

Yet, today I want to talk to you about other women of power. I am talking about the woman who birthed the Unity movement and the women that to this day have continued to nurture the philosophy with which Unity continues to bless the world 128 years after its foundation . Let’s begin with Myrtle Fillmore, the Mother of Unity

 

 

We Invite You to watch this short video

 

 

Myrtle wrote (PPT) When the mind opens by speaking denials, this true Self that philosophers have so long striven to free shows itself all glorious with wisdom, strength, and holiness…Denial of evil is a word of Truth.

 

In these words, Myrtle is speaking about the mind cleansing that is necessary in order to free ourselves from the misinformation that we have been fed since the moment we were born. That cleansing can lead to a life of wisdom strength and holiness and that the denial of Evil in itself is Truth.. The next quote by Myrtle lays the basic foundation of Unity

 

(PPT) The light of God revealed to us—the thought came to me first—that life was of God, that we were inseparably one with the Source, and that we inherited from the divine and perfect Father. What that revelation did to me at first was not apparent to the senses. But it held my mind above negation, and I began to claim my birthright and to act as though I believed myself the child of God, filled with His life     _Myrtle Fillmore.

Can you imagine, the effect on our consciousness if we meditated on that every single day? I can also connect with the sense of wonder that Myrtle was going through while discovering that by applying her newly learned and acquired Universal principles were already bringing healing to her life.

 

Doctor H. Emilie Cady the author of Lesson in Truth which, after the Bible is considered Unity foundational book is another woman of power. She wrote a series of articles for Unity’s publication, Modern Thought, and she was invited to compile those articles into a book. She was up in the New England area and the Fillmore were in the Midwest; they communicated by letter and never met

 

(PPT) We have come to a place now where our search for Truth must no longer be for the rewards; it must no longer be our seeking a creed to follow, but it must be our living a life. Emilie Cady

 

This statement goes hand in hand with Jesus teaching that if we seek the Kngdom of God and its righteousness first , all other things will be added into us. It also connect with the notion that Unity, rather than a religion, is a way of thinking and acting and basically a way of life.

 

One of the teachings that I first learned in Unity was the power of our words. I had to retrain myself and be careful with the words I used. I learned that our words, intentionally or not are always shaping our reality.

 

This is what Emilie Cady has to say about that:

 

(PPT) Our spoken word first hammers a thing desired into shape. Our continued spoken word brings this shaped substance forth and clothes it with a visible body.   E Cady.

 

The next quote is not from a Unity lady per se, but is from the woman that founded a philosophy that gave birth to Unity, and to Religious Science. I am talking about Mary Baker Eddy, the founder of Christian Science. She was a woman of power in her own right. Here is a quote by her.

 

(PPT) God gives you His spiritual ideas, and in turn, they give you daily supplies. Never ask for tomorrow: it is enough that divine Love is an ever-present help; and if you wait, never doubting, you will have all you need every moment.

 

-This is a fundamental principle in metaphysics. In other words, every tangible, visible or palpable thing, is the visible expression of a divine idea. It is the metaphysical trinity of MIND, IDEA and EXPRESSION in action. As I have walked this journey of almost 40 years in Unity, this has been one of the most powerful awareness that I have had. It has been the knowing that God, Spirit, Loving Divine Energy is all around me and I just need to know that and not worry about a thing when external appearances want to indicate that there is not enough. There is always plenty because Spirit is our inexhaustible source of supply.

 

Another woman of power whom is credited with articulating the teachings of Charles Fillmore in a way that is more understandable to the masses is Elizabeth Sand Turner. In this quote, she explains Unity second foundational principle:

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Unity holds that one’s higher self, which is the true self, is divine, spiritual. It is this self that is Divine Mind’s perfect idea, the same self that in Genesis is spoken of as the image and likeness of God. In the New Testament, this self is represented by the Christ, they only begotten Son of God.

 

Once again, we see a different explanation of the Divine Trinity. The understanding here is that the Christ, the son or the perfect idea in the Father’s mind has existed from the very beginning. It’s the Emmanuelle that Isaiah spoke about; it’s the secret of the ages that Paul wrote about, Christ in You, the hope of Glory.

 

Mae Rowland is a woman of power that led the Silent Unity prayer ministry for 50 years. People that knew Mae Rowland credit her from looking out a window and speaking words of Truth to a tornado that was heading straight for Unity Village. The tornado veered and went somewhere else. They also talk about her interrupting employees conversations about the latest bug that was going around with the statement: Remember, it is your birthright to be healthy.

 

Unity’s women of power are not limited to those that live in the beginnings of our movement. Many others continued to paved the way for us today, including Carolyn Hightower, who pioneered Christ Church Unity in Orlando in the year 1937. I had the privilege or hearing her speak on her 97th birthday

 

Alinda and I have been in contact with many women of Power in Unity. Most of them have been our teachers. Among them, Laura Barrett Bennett, Terry Lund, Tony Boehm, Nancy Clark Norma Rosado, Maria Molinari, Carmen Fe Figueroa, Tita Calzada and the current director of Silent Unity, Linda Martella-Whitsett.

 

This ministry would not exist without the unconditional support of a Super Woman of Power, the Reverend Alinda Ramos. To her I am eternally grateful

 

These women are and have been high expression of the Divine Feminine. Their words, their writings, their teachings and their consciousness have shaped our lives and our ministry.   I salute them and I celebrate them

 

At this time, I would like for all the ladies, to stand up and listen to this reading, read by Woman of Power, Diazina Mobley.

 

READING AND CLOSING

 

Reading:  Be a Queen   (read by a woman)

We celebrate who you are

for your unique life journey has not necessarily been an easy one–

yet look at how far you’ve traveled,

how much you have grown,

how much you have learned,

the great love you have given,

all that you have created in your lifetime!

We celebrate your many strengths.  We celebrate your triumphs.

We rejoice in the magnificent person you have become !

We are all Queens. Let us each be the Queen we are.

Dare to be different.  Be a pioneer.  Be a leader.

Be the kind of woman who in the face of adversity

will continue to embrace life

and walk fearlessly toward the challenge.

Yes!  Take it on!

Be a truth seeker and rule your domain, whatever it is ––

your body, your home, your office, your family, your creativity–

rule with a loving heart.

Yes, Be a Queen.  Be tender.

Continue to give birth to new ideas

and rejoice in your womanhood.

My prayer is that we will all stop wasting any time

being mundane and mediocre.

We are daughters of God ––here to teach the world how to love.

It doesn’t matter what we’ve been through,

where we’ve come from,

who our parents are ––

what our social or economic status is.

None of that matters.

What matters is how we choose to love,

how we choose to express that love through our work,

through our family, through our relationships,

though our creativity

through all that we have to give to the world.

Look at us!  We are all Queens!  

Let us own our power and our glory!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feelings, Nothing More than Feelings May 7, 2017

ATTENTION: The purpose of Nonviolent Communication is to create connections so people do things for one another out of compassion, out of connection to Divine Energy, to serve life. Not out of fear of punishment, not out of hope for rewards, but because of the natural joy we feel of contributing to one another’s well being.

Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD. Practical Spirituality: The Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication (Kindle Locations 235-237). Kindle Edition.

 

We are continuing our series based on the (PPT) Complaint Free World book by Will Bowen. For those that are just joining, this book is associated with a 21 day challenge in which you commit to not complain, gossip, criticize or use sarcasm for 21 days. The idea is that every time that you catch yourself doing one of those things, as a reminder, you switch your bracelet or indicate so on the Complain Free World app. As a result of this exercise we have grown conscious that we complain or have complained in the past quite frequently and now are doing the best we can to avoid the practice.

 

We have been concentrating in the previous weeks on complaining and how it affects not only us but our relationships as well. Today we will look at two subtle and sometimes not so subtle types of complaining, which are criticism and sarcasm. Criticism for the most part is direct, even though many times it is shared with someone that cannot do anything about it. Sarcasm, on the other hand, is passive aggressive and quite often is disguised at an attempt to be humorous.

 

(PPT) Both criticism and sarcasm are forms of complaining. When you engage in either, switch your bracelet. Criticism is defined as pointing out another’s faults in a disapproving way. Therefore, “constructive criticism” is an oxymoron. To be constructive is to build up. To criticize is to tear down. You are never being constructive when you criticize someone.

Bowen, Will (2013-02-05). A Complaint Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life

 

This caught me a bit by surprise, because I have been know for offering constructive criticism. And the truth is that people, whether they deserve it or not, do not want to be criticized, constructively or otherwise. People want approval and praise and that’s it.

 

When it comes to loving relationships, there is a book that, anyone that is in relationship, or starting one, I should say, should read, together, if possible. The book is called, (PPT) The Five Love Languages. The main premise is that people have a preferred way of giving and of receiving love. One of those languages is words of affirmation. I believe that any bad habit, can be replaced by a good habit. If we are into the habit of criticizing, we can gradually replace that habit by introducing into our speaking repertoire the habit of praising and affirming people. Now, some may if there is difference between appreciation and simple flattery. I turned to an old classic for the answer:

 

(PPT) “The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.”

― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

 

Dale Carnegie continues:

 

(PPT) “Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurt his sense of importance and arouse resentment.”

― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People.

 

What is the answer then, when there is a need to correct someone’s behavior? And the operating clause is, “when there is a need’’. I say that, because for the person that habitually criticizes, many times there is not a need to be correcting everybody. Yet, there are times when an objectionable behavior or performance does need to be addressed. The answer that I am about to share does not come from the book we are studying. Rather it is from the work of Marshall Rosenberg on Non-Violent Communication.

 

The main premise of this book is that everything that we do in life, from the moment that we are born, responds to having our needs met. It does not matter what type of needs we are talking about. They can be emotional needs, financial needs, psycho social needs, it does not matter what they are.

 

In the context of this talk, criticism and sarcasms are forms of violence. Most of the time we do not realize that. Part of the challenge is that we have not been trained, raised or educated to identify and articulate our own needs; much less the needs of other people.

 

This just happened to me yesterday. Alinda went out with my daughter and she was very thoughtful to leave me some leftovers so I could have a nice lunch. Well, I put the cold plate in our new microwave and discovered that it has a feature in which it senses how much food is in the plate and determines the temperature and the time it takes to warm it up. Well, I pushed the right buttons, the microwave started and displayed a message that said, sensing, sensing, sensing. It was taking a while and I decided to satisfy my curiosity and stay with it and wait. Suddenly the message switched to, determining time. In a couple of minutes I had my delicious lunch at the perfect temperature. Since I had already been working on this talk I though: Wouldn’t it be nice if we could sense and anticipate other people’s needs in order to establish a heart to heart connection and totally avoid the use of sarcasm and criticism in order to have our needs and their needs met?

 

You see, in order to convey that we do not approve of someone’s behavior, we do not need to attack or insult or offend and abuse the other person. Usually we do that when we are not even aware of our own needs and instead engage in game of I am right and you are not. Every conflict can be resolved when we know and understand, what the other person needs and when we are able to understand and articulate our own needs.

 

 

 

  • for the behavior to change going forward.

 

 

In a nutshell, The first thing you do is (PPT)

 

 

  1. Empathize with your self. Check in and see what are you feeling. (You must be able to complete the sentence, I feel ___________ (sad, mad, angry, frustrated, happy, etc.)
  2. State the behavior you observed
  3. State how it made YOU feel
  4. State your emotional need regarding such behavior.
  5. Make a request for the behavior to change going forward.

 

You will notice that the more you choose to be authentic with yourself and other, the less you will be prone to criticize, attack or use sarcasm.

 

 

 

 

Closing

 

In closing, when you make the habit of owning your own feelings and emotions, you have reached the stage of unconscious competence. If you have not completed the 21 day challenge, just keep trying. It is possible; others have done it. YOU can do it as well. God bless.