The Positive Power of Silence April 30, 2017

(PPT) 27 The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered. 28 Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. Proverbs 17: 28-28 NIV

 

Good morning again. We are in the midst of the series, A Complaint Free World, based on the book by Will Bowen (PPT) The text of these talks is posted on the blog section of our website, (PLAY VIDEO) (ppt) www.unitychurch.com, if you wish to catch up.

 

We are entering the stage of (PPT)conscious competence. Let me review the pervious stages in the context of complaining. In the unconscious incompetency stage, we were not even aware that we complained. When we started changing our bracelet or using the app every time we complained, then we entered the stage of conscious incompetence, because now we knew without a doubt that we complained quite frequently, to our surprise, I may add. We have continued to change our bracelets and now, we are aware every time that we are either complaining or about to complain; and that is the stage of conscious competence.

 

This stage of conscious competence can trigger some uncomfortable moments of silence. We all remember the saying “misery loves company”. There are people that, regardless of what they are complaining about, they want you to join them in their complaining. One example is when people start talking about their aches and pains or the latest medical procedure they underwent. Maybe someone starts complaining about everything that they see is wrong with the country, the economy or the world.

 

Well, when you consciously decide not to join the self-pity party, awkwardness can set in; and it can be uncomfortable. Yet, a thing or two is going to happen, as you stand your ground and refuse to join in complaining: The other person may soon realize that you will not be and audience and will move on to find someone that will join in their complaining. The other thing is, that there might uncomfortable moments of silence, which is an opportunity to change the subject to something more positive.

 

It is important to know, that if someone has a legitimate reason to complain, and is not necessarily a habitual complainer, you can always listen with empathetic compassion, without complaining yourself. If this is the situation, in the majority of the cases, the person simply wants and needs to be heard.

 

Now, let us not lose sight that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. I believe that there is an important spiritual component when it comes to keeping silence when someone else is complaining.

 

Here is a quote from the Prophet Isaiah that will illustrate the point I am trying to make.

 

(PPT) For thus said the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel: “By waiting and by calm you shall be saved, in quiet and in trust shall be your strength.” Isaiah 30:15. 

 

(PPT) The Hebrew word here translated as “quiet” not only carries the sense of inner silence, but inner peace as well. Our salvation and strength comes not through noise and much talking but by cultivating what the Greeks call hesychia — serene interior silence. –Carl McColman – A Contemplative Faith

 

What I am saying here, our silence is more meaningful and effective by intentionally cultivating that serene interior silence.

 

In the book the author mentions more than once that the way that we can discern when we are stating a fact versus whining and complaining is by the energy that we put underneath our words.

My brother Juan, who has sometimes an interesting sense of humor, is always joking when small glitches happen. Whether a cash register stops working or runs out of paper when he is about to pay at the grocery store, or the gas pump has an out of order sign, he quickly says: “Of course” He even makes it a humorous game to expect that sort of thing happening. And guess what? It does!. And it does because our subconscious mind does not have a sense of humor, and the Universe always responds to our thoughts and to our words.

 

This is what is called a self fulfilling prophesy.

 

I invite you to evaluate phrases such as “Of course!” • “Wouldn’t you know it?” • “Just my luck!” • “This always happens to me!”

You can change that by simply choosing a pet phrase that will convey an energy of positive expectation as opposed to a gripe or a complaint. Alinda and I adopted a phrase years ago. We started it while interacting with people in other countries where the customer service experience was different than that to which we were accustomed. Rather than getting upset, we would look at each other and together say: “Its and adventure” Very soon we adapted this to all sorts of unexpected happenings. We have added, God is in charge and it’s going to be OK. When you add to this a positive visualization of the desired outcome, the results always end up being better than if we had complained our way through it.

 

Back in December our daughter treated us to the Barbra Streisand concert in Miami. We were an hour into our trip when our daughter realized that she had not packed her Parkinson’s medication. Its an adventure, God is in charge and its going to be OK. Phone calls were made and the pharmacy transferred the prescription to another location in our route to Miami. After an hour delay we were on our way. After checking in into a hotel we called an Uber driver that missed a turn and extended our trip by 25 minutes. There was no time to eat at a restaurant like we had planned. Its an adventure, God is in charge and its going to be OK. We decided to grab a snack at the same venue of the concert. As we are walking towards the concert arena, my daughter realized she had left her purse in the Uber car. (I had the tickets in my pocket) Its an adventure, God is in charge and its going to be OK. We contacted the driver and arranged to pick up the purse the next day at the driver’s place of employment, on the opposite side of Miami the next day. After we finished the concert, which was awesome, we walked to a pizza place right across from the venue, and from there we took another Uber back to the hotel. Alinda and were settling in our room when Alinda realized that she had left her nice jacket at the Pizza place. Its an adventure, God is in charge and its going to be OK, we said again. Phone calls were made and the jacket and the purse were retrieved the next day.

We stopped to visit a friend in Wes Palm Beach on the way back. Before we got in the car, I said everyone P L E A S E check your pockets, belongings and make sure we are not leaving anything behind. Its an adventure, God is in charge and its going to be OK

 

Will Bowen says that the best barometer of whether or not you are a positive person is how you use the words “of course.”

 

Charles Fillmore, the co founder of Unity says in the Revealing Word

 

(PPT) silence, the–A state of consciousness entered into for the purpose of putting man in touch with Divine Mind so that the soul may listen to the “still small voice” (I Kings 19: 12). When one goes into the silence he enters the “secret place of the Most High,” the closet of prayer within. He closes the door and in the stillness of that meeting place he prays to God, he communes with God, and he meditates on Truth. Then he listens to what God has to say to him..

 

Like I said before, we do not have to wait for a formal or scheduled time of prayer to enter the Silence. We can enter that interior state of serenity in the midst of every day circumstances.

 

Our words have power and we can positively affirm our way out of any so-called negative circumstance. How things get miraculously resolved, is none of our business. When Jesus fed the multitude he did not complain about the task at hand, he simply lifted his consciousness to God and gave thanks; and the people were fed.

 

 

(PPT)The shortest path to get what you desire is not to talk about or focus on the problem. Focus beyond the problem. Talk only about what you desire, and only to someone who can provide the solution. You will shorten the wait time for what you seek, and be happier in the process.

 

The practical application of this lesson is to use the words Of course!” • “Wouldn’t you know it?” • “Just my luck!” • “This always happens to me!”, every time something good happens to you. That way, you will have many beautiful moments to share.

 

Next week we will look criticism and sarcasm and how they fit in a complaint free world, as we begin to wrap up the series and get ready for the next one; the name of the lesson? I have no clue. Please don’t criticize that. Was that sarcastic?

 

 

 

 

God Bless.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Keep at it Don’t Quit April 23

(PPT) 19 But Joseph said to them, “Do not fear, for am I in the place of God? 20 As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people[b] should be kept alive, as they are today. 21 So do not fear; I will provide for you and your little ones.” Thus he comforted them and spoke kindly to them. (Gen: 19:21)

 

Good morning. We have been working on a series based on the book, A Complaint Free World, by Unity Minister Will Bowen. We took a couple of weeks off to honor Palm and Easter Sundays, but today we are back at our series about living a complaint free life.

 

We started out by realizing what the author calls, our unconscious incompetence, meaning we did not realize how much we actually complain. Some of us, yours truly included, thought ourselves to be very positive, yet we tried to participate in the complain-free challenge, we changed our bracelet more times than we could count. The led us into the phase of, Conscious Incompetence, because now we know that we complain a lot. We also covered areas such as why we complain, how does complaining affect our health, our relationships and the reasons why we complain so much. If you wish to brush up on any of these, go to our website and visit our blog. I have been posting the text of all these talks there.

During today’s message, I would like to acknowledge that it is not easy to go 21 days without complaining. But at the same time, I need to tell you that, number one; it is possible, because many people have done it when they stuck to it. And second, if we are going to be serious about living lives of abundance, health and prosperity, it is a priority for us to eliminate complaining from our lives simply for what complaining does to us. Remember that our thoughts and our words do determine our reality. The more we complain, the more the Universe will respond with things for us to complain about. Likewise the Universe will respond when we stop complaining.

The book presents us with several examples to illustrate the power of persistence when it comes to mastering the skill of not complaining. Like any other skill set, its about persistence and sticking to it. Here is a quote from the book:

(PPT) So stick with your commitment to become Complaint Free even when you’re shocked and embarrassed at how often you complain. Stick with it when you feel justified in complaining. Stick with it when you crave the opportunity to paint yourself as a victim and gain sympathy from others. In the words of Winston Churchill, “Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.”

Bowen, Will

I started with a quote from Genesis. That quote is the end of the rather long journey of Joseph, one of Jacob’s sons. His brothers hated him because he was his father’s favorite and they sold him into slavery. Through a series of interesting twists and turns, Joseph ends up being the 2nd most important person in Egypt, only second to Pharaoh. At the time of the quote, there is a famine back where the brothers live and they come to Egypt for help. Once there, they realize that the person that now has the power to help them is non other than their little brother, whom they had sold into slavery years before.

 

Joseph’s now, famous answer, “you meant it for evil but God meant it for good” ties in not only with living a complaint free world but also with our basic Unity teachings.

 

Perhaps our most important and practical teaching is that God is Omnipresent Good. Regardless of external appearances, God’s good is there. Life has a way of presenting to us opportunities for growth. When such things happen, such as loosing a job of receiving bad news from a Doctor, an unexpected bill, it does not matter; the first order of business, even before we think about complaining, is to stop, breathe, and acknowledge (SBA) God’s Omnipresent Good. The fact that at that particular moment we do not see that good manifesting, does not mean that it is not there. Remember, God’s good is omnipresent, so it has to be there. Playing the victim role does not help us to see God’s good. That’s why taking up the 21-Day challenge is so important. We are not playing a game; we are developing a skill, and developing a skill takes practice. I wasn’t very happy when I wanted to go out and play with my friends and my mother would insist that instead I practice the piano. Did sticking to piano practice pay off? You bet it did. Being a musician, kept me out of harms way during the Vietnam conflict. Yes, I went to Vietnam but instead of carrying a rifle, I was carrying a keyboard and entertaining my fellow soldiers.

 

In Unity we use the term consciousness a lot. Sometimes I feel that we use it so much that it looses its meaning. Consciousness is all about awareness. In this case, it is about the awareness that regardless of what’s going on in our lives, the activity of God never ceases. It can’t; it simply can’t. The day it does, we are history. Napoleon Hill, my all-time favorite author wrote back in 1937 (PPT) In adversity lies the seed of an equivalent or higher benefit”. New Thought pioneer, Mary Curtis Hopkins when facing adversity used to say: (PPT) “This too is good, this too is for me” and then she would pause and add: “And darn it, I demand to know the blessing.”

History is full of examples of people that overcame great adversities and went on to accomplish great things, Victor Frankl and Helen Keller come to mind. When you study their lives, you realize that they had plenty of reasons to complain but they didn’t. Instead they managed to harness the activity of God’s good that was all around them and use it to rise above their circumstances by choosing to grow through it as opposed to simply going and suffering through it. God is good all the time and all the time God is good. We simply need to acknowledge it. We need to know it, we need to own it and we need to feel it. God is good all the time, all the time God is good.

Have you heard the phrase, “misery loves company?”

Well next week, we will see how SILENCE is an excellent tool in continuing to develop the skill of living a complaint free life but also in the process set an example for other, which might end up transforming their lives.

 

I can’t wait to hear what I have to say. God bless

 

 

 

Easter Message April 16, 2017

When it comes to special services, such as Easter and Christmas, sometimes it becomes a challenge to honor tradition and Scripture and at the same time deliver a message that is fresh and different than the ones delivered in years before. I believe that Unity and New Thought ministers in particular have an additional challenge. And that challenge is to be faithful to the basic teachings of Unity, as taught by Charles and Myrtle Fillmore, and to their interpretation of the various sacred texts, and at the same time honor the discoveries that science has made in the last 150 years when it comes Scripture, Archeology and the research that Bible scholars have done in the same amount of time.

To this mix, you add the personal beliefs of the one delivering the message and hopefully we will end up with message that will inspire, uplift and bring a sense of hope at particular time in history where our faith is being shaken time after time by world events.

I would like to get something out of the way. Yes, there is a metaphysical interpretation to Jesus’ resurrection from the dead. And I believe that such interpretation is as important and perhaps even more practical than to believe in a literal resurrection. That being said, I am here to tell you, that If I believe in God omniscience, omnipresence and omnipotence, I must believe that that all things are possible through God and in God. After all, in God we live, move and have our being. Therefore, to me the resurrection of Jesus Christ was and is very real.

 

The original charter of Unity School of Christianity states that Unity is the great educational movement initiated by Jesus Christ.

Let us look at the words of Charles Fillmore when he explained the humanity and the divinity of Jesus.

 

(PPT) He has not left us or gone to some far away heaven, but He may be reached by the humblest of us in a moment’s time, if we really aspire in soul for His companionship and help. This is a simple statement of the relation that Jesus of Nazareth bears to us. Yet He was more than Jesus of Nazareth, more than any other man who ever lived on the earth. He was more than human, as we understand the word in its everyday use, because there came into His humanity a factor to which most people are strangers. This factor was the Christ consciousness.

 

(PPT) The unfoldment of this consciousness by Jesus made Him God incarnate, because Christ is the mind of God individualized, and whoever so loses his personality as to be swallowed up in God becomes Christ Jesus or God man.

 

We cannot separate Jesus Christ from God, or tell where the human Jesus leaves off and God begins in Him. To say that Jesus Christ was human as we are human is not true, because He had dropped that personal consciousness by which we separate ourselves into men and women. He was consciously one with the absolute principle of Being. He had no consciousness separate from Spirit, separate from God, separate from Being, hence He was that Being to all intents and purposes.

 

Yet He attained no more than is expected of each of us. “That they may be one, even as we are” was His prayer. So it is fitting to celebrate because Indeed, Jesus has risen.

 

I have been re reading the Gospel according to Thomas, one of the Gospels found in the Dead Sea scrolls. The emphasis of this Gospel, and by the way, also the emphasis of Unity is on the teachings, not the teacher. Instead of telling the reader to put faith in Jesus as a savior, readers are instructed to take personal responsibility and seek out the meaning of Jesus’ words so they can save themselves. By the way, that word, “salvation” also could have been translated as Wholeness or wholesomeness. So in Unity we look at salvation as integrating the spirit of the Living Christ into every single aspect of our lives, MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT.

 

The Gospel according to Thomas makes no mention of either Jesus’ death or a resurrection. Although Jesus had already been crucified when the book was written, the writer speaks of Jesus in the present tense calling him, “the living Jesus.” Thomas leads you to believe that Jesus’ flesh may have died, but he is alive and still available to his followers. When Jesus said that anyone who understands his message would not die, he wanted his listeners to understand life in an entirely new way. We tend to look at life in the material world as linear; we’re born, we grow old, we die. But when we look at the regenerative pattern that’s in continual operation in the universe, we can see that the universe is cyclical. As science has discovered, matter can appear as energy, and energy as matter, but the sum total of the whole never changes, and nothing ‘dies’ in the process. An immortal yet changing universe makes sense when we know the universe and the Divine are synonymous. How can we understand this? When we think of the death of the body, we’ve been taught to see this as the end of the personality associated with it. The body does return to energy and the personality does disappear, but the immortal consciousness that projected them remains untouched by this change. When we understand this, Jesus’ promise that we shall not die takes on new meaning.

 

Charles Fillmore wrote:

(PPT) Regeneration is the restoration of the mental, emotional and physical bodies to, their original state of wholeness, (As originally created in God’s Image and Likeness) through the activity of the Holy Spirit. This restoration is a gradual process that takes place as consciousness turns in upon itself, identifying and surrendering to the true self, the Christ.

 

In closing, yes, the resurrection of Jesus took place a long time ago. But the resurrection happens in you and me every time that we say no to limitation and embrace prosperity, every time that we say no to pain and suffering and embrace wholeness of Spirit, Mind and Body. The resurrection happens in me, moment-by-moment, choice-by-choice. May you and yours receive a very special blessing as you allow the resurrected Christ to express through you and your loved ones. Have a blessed and happy Easter.

Line up Ye’All _Palm Sunday April 9

(1)(PPT)6 The disciples went and did as Jesus had instructed them. They brought the donkey and the colt and placed their cloaks on them for Jesus to sit on. A very large crowd spread their cloaks on the road, while others cut branches from the trees and spread them on the road. The crowds that went ahead of him and those that followed shouted,

“Hosanna[b] to the Son of David!”

“Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord!”[c]

“Hosanna[d] in the highest heaven!”

10 When Jesus entered Jerusalem, the whole city was stirred and asked, “Who is this?”

11 The crowds answered, “This is Jesus, the prophet from Nazareth in Galilee.”

 

(2)This is the beginning of Easter week and we are celebrating Palm Sunday and Jesus triumphant entrance into Jerusalem.

 

There is lots of symbolism and metaphysics surrounding this event, but today I would like to focus on how Jesus prepared for this moment. I believe that our Master Teacher, being fully human and fully divine, went through a series of stages as his soul was evolving and those stages are stages that he modeled for us. After all, he said, that we could do the same things and even greater things we could do. So lest get started.

 

 

Jesus declared his intention.

 

There is a story about a young Jesus becoming lost while the Holy Family was traveling by caravan.  His parents could not find him. Like any other parents, they became desperate. They asked everyone and they could not find him. Eventually they walked back to their last stop and found Jesus discussing Scripture with a bunch of rabbis, and scribes; you know, these were the smartest people in town and their jaws were dropping, listening to this 12 year old interpret the Scriptures.   When he finished, his parents reprimanded him and told him to be considerate of them because they were really worried. His reply was very simple.   I MUST BE ABOUT MY Father’s business

 

You know, I ask myself, how many of us had that clarity of mind when we were twelve, And I am not talking about what we wanted to be as a profession or career. I am not talking about wanting to be firemen, a doctor, a nurse or a teacher. No this was more than that. He declared his intention that he needed to be concerned with God’s business and of course all that that entails.

 

I believe that as humans, this may have been the source of some of our problems. Organized religion has shown us this perfect picture of Jesus and how he was perfect from the time he was born and could show off such mastery of the Scripture at the age of 12.

But combined with that message was also the message that we were miserable sinners that had fallen short in achieving the same things that Jesus had achieved. Yet, they never told us what Jesus said about us being able to do the things that he did.

 

(PPT) John 14:12New International Version (NIV)

12 Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father.

We do not require a master’s in psychology or mental health to deduce that this has done quite a number to our psyche; and there, at least in part, has been the source of our troubles. My friend, Ricky Ricardo, would say at this point, “Organized Religion, you have some splaining to do”

In the Lord’s Prayer, there is a line that reads, Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors. Well, if one of the biggest issues that we have is feeling that we are not good enough, or carrying the burden of being called a sinner for such a long time, the first order of business is LETTING GO of all that nonsense and forgive ourselves and others if necessary.

At the beginning of the lesson we read a Scripture about Jesus entering Jerusalem riding a donkey.

But where did that donkey come from? There was no Hertz or Avis or Alamo Rent a Donkey anywhere. Of course not told the disciples to go and find the donkey and the colt and jus borrow them and if anybody asked, o just tell them, the Lord sent for them. In other words, we come in the Name of the Lord. Now, remember that Lord, is the English translation to Jehovah, which is the Hebrew rendition of the name that was revealed to Moses that literally mean, I am that I am. When you say, I am that I am, you are going beyond any concept of the divine that has been defined by religion. You are basically saying, I need this or that because God’s nature itself has empowered me to have it. Period, that’s all there is to it.

Charles Fillmore, the co-founder of Unity wrote:

(PPT) When we achieve mastery over our sense consciousness,(Jesus riding a donkey) our supporting thoughts(people shouting Hossanas) line up to see us enter a place of peace (Jerusalem)

 

Jesus entrance into Jerusalem is about overcoming; it’s about achieving mastery over those limiting thoughts that keep us from moving forward. Jerusalem, literally means CITY OF PEACE. In order to enter a peace, we have to become like a drill sergeant that is in charge of our thoughts and basic call those thoughts into a military formation and say.

Some of you thoughts belong in the formation. Some of you don’t

ARMY STORY ABOUT LINE UP (MAYBE)

Line up, You, the one that says I am not good enough. Get out of my way because, here I come.

Line up, you, the one that says that I have an incurable condition, get out of my way, because here I come.

Line up, you the one that says that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, therefore I have the same defects that my father or my mother had, GET OUT OF MY WAY, because here I come.

Line up, you the one that says that someone hurt me and have been occupying precious real estate in my mind and my consciousness, achieving absolutely nothing, GET OUT OF MY WAY, because here I come.

 

 

Neville in “The Power of Awareness” wrote (PPT) “Health, wealth, beauty, and genius are not created; they are only manifested by the arrangement of your mind—that is, by your concept of yourself, and your concept of yourself is all that you accept and consent to as true.”

The arrangement of our mind is, getting rid of those thoughts that are not doing anything to support us in our journey of expressing who we really are, Spiritual Beings living a human experience. So friends, here are the steps once again

CONNECTION CARD

State your intention

Have a definite mission and purpose

Affirm and Assert your real identity

 

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Do those three things and you will be able to enter the Holy City, Jerusalem, which is a symbol for a spirituality, high consciousness and a state of peace. peace.

 

 

 

Why do We Complain April 2

Good morning again. I love it when the Universe presents me with an opportunity to test the lesson that I am presenting, which in this case is about the power of living a complaint free life by participating in this 21-day challenge of not complaining.  By the way, how many of you are participating in the challenge and how are your doing with it?

 

I am telling you, this week, I stopped counting how many times I complained because I was healing at home from the flu. I am not a very good patient, and Alinda has a lot of PATIENCE, dealing with me.  I do not even remember when was the last time I was down for a whole week. But, I am giving thanks because, I am well and ready to go. I like to embody Charles Fillmore affirmation,  (PPT) I Fairly Sizzle With  Energy and Enthusiasm as I go forth to do the things that ought to be done by me. And from Unity’ Sunday school curriculum,  (PPT) Every little cell of my body is happy, every little cell of my body is well.

 

Well, we are continuing our, Complaint Free World Series, based on the book by Will Bowen. And of course for those of us that are taking this challenge seriously, it has been, I dare to say, an eye opener, a wake up call, so to speak, because it has made us aware of how embedded into our genes is this complaining thing. I speak for myself; I know none of you complain, EVER.

 

You know, and I was thinking that even in Scripture, we see complaining.  In the allegory of Genesis, Adam and Eve, complained. In 21st century jargon, they said, -“ you know, this place is boring, let’s go check out that tree over there, the one we are not supposed to touch…    The Prodigal son complained, when he asked his Father to give him his inheritance.    After he spent it and returned, the older son complained because the Father threw a party for the returning son.   Even Cain, back in the Old Testament, complained about his brother for so long………..He hated him as long as he was ABLE…..

 

Today’s lesson from the book gets into why we complain?  Because , frankly we are all good people, that is our nature as children of GOODNES itself. According to Will Bowen, the reasons we complain are, mostly unconscious but his research shows that there are some specific reasons and he’s given us a mnemonic device to remind us what these reasons are. The mnemonic device is the word, GRIPE

 

 

GET ATTENTION, Remove Responsibility, Inspire Envy, POWER and Excuse Poor Performance.

 

Complaining to get attention is a strange way to get attention but it seems to be quite common. This person is a habitual complainer and will complain about almost everything. Usually this person will complain to whomever is willing to listen. Will Bowen suggest a technique that can be used either in a one on one setting or even in a group. In the first opportunity, you simply ask: What’s going well in your life?  This can be awkward at first but I guarantee you that the person will stop complaining, at least in front of you.

 

There was a time that a member of our family was going through some drama and every time we got together, we talked about this person, for the most part trying to come up with a solution, which is a way to justify gossip. My daughter Alinda would wake us up by saying: I HAVE AN IDEA. Let’s go around the table and say, what its going well in our lives. Now we avoid the subject altogether.

 

Another reason for complaining is to remove responsibility. This is what I call, the devil made me do it syndrome. Or the dog ate my homework. These are the people that are habitually late and always complain about the traffic. At work, it is always someone else’s fault why they could not meet a deadline.

Anthony Robbins, suggest asking this person: If it was possible, How would you do it?

If asking, “If this was possible, how might you do it?” does not shift the person away from his or her “Yes, buts,” simply say, “I have faith in your ability to figure out a way to accomplish this.” Then, with every complaining justification as to how impossible the task is, simply repeat, “I have faith in your ability to figure out a way to accomplish.

 

(Ppt) In his book The Presence Process, Michael Brown accurately breaks down the word “blame” as to “be lame.” A person who complains to blame the world and other people for his or her life is being lame; that person feels powerless to make things better.

 

 

Inspire Envy

 

Gossip is complaining to inspire envy. When you gossip, you should switch your bracelet. The underlying message behind gossip is that the gossip feels superior to the person being gossiped about and wants you to acknowledge this. Gossip is speaking negatively about someone who is not present. I’m not saying you can’t talk about other people. What I’m suggesting is that you: 1. Talk only about the positive traits of those who are absent 2. Say the same things and with the same inflection that you would say if the person was present

 

GOSSIP VIDEO HERE

Complaining as a way of gaining power, is very common during the politics. The technique is used by professionals to dig as much dirt as possible on the opposing candidate,  in order to persuade the voters away from that candidate. At work it’s about complaining about a co worker to diminish his or her power in front of the employer

 

Excuse poor performance

 

George Forman tried to make a comeback to fighting when he was 40 years old. Everything was going well up to the time that his own team made a mistake, thinking they were ahead and told him to take it easy during the last round. He followed the advise and as a result lost his one chance to the Heavy Weight Championship.   Yet, he was gracious about it and did not complain.    Turn out to be that later he became champion again and after that a very successful sports commentator and businessman.

 

What can you do next time to avoid this is a good question to ask the person that is always complaining to excuse poor performance.

 

CLOSE

 

 

Breake the next two weeks for Palm Sunday and Easter

 

 

 

 

 

Why Do We Complain April 2, 2017

Good morning again. I love it when the Universe presents me with an opportunity to test the lesson that I am presenting, which in this case is about the power of living a complaint free life by participating in this 21-day challenge of not complaining. By the way, how many of you are participating in the challenge and how are your doing with it?

 

I am telling you, this week, I stopped counting how many times I complained because I was healing at home from the flu. I am not a very good patient, and Alinda has a lot of PATIENCE, dealing with me. I do not even remember when was the last time I was down for a whole week. But, I am giving thanks because, I am well and ready to go. I like to embody Charles Fillmore affirmation, (PPT) I Fairly Sizzle With Energy and Enthusiasm as I go forth to do the things that ought to be done by me. And from Unity’ Sunday school curriculum, (PPT) Every little cell of my body is happy, every little cell of my body is well.

 

Well, we are continuing our, Complaint Free World Series, based on the book by Will Bowen. And of course for those of us that are taking this challenge seriously, it has been, I dare to say, an eye opener, a wake up call, so to speak, because it has made us aware of how embedded into our genes is this complaining thing. I speak for myself; I know none of you complain, EVER.

 

You know, and I was thinking that even in Scripture, we see complaining. In the allegory of Genesis, Adam and Eve, complained. In 21st century jargon, they said, -“ you know, this place is boring, let’s go check out that tree over there, the one we are not supposed to touch…   The Prodigal son complained, when he asked his Father to give him his inheritance.   After he spent it and returned, the older son complained because the Father threw a party for the returning son.   Even Cain, back in the Old Testament, complained about his brother for so long………..He hated him as long as he was ABLE…..

 

Today’s lesson from the book gets into why we complain? Because , frankly we are all good people, that is our nature as children of GOODNES itself. According to Will Bowen, the reasons we complain are, mostly unconscious but his research shows that there are some specific reasons and he’s given us a mnemonic device to remind us what these reasons are. The mnemonic device is the word, GRIPE

 

 

GET ATTENTION, Remove Responsibility, Inspire Envy, POWER and Excuse Poor Performance.

 

Complaining to get attention is a strange way to get attention but it seems to be quite common. This person is a habitual complainer and will complain about almost everything. Usually this person will complain to whomever is willing to listen. Will Bowen suggest a technique that can be used either in a one on one setting or even in a group. In the first opportunity, you simply ask: What’s going well in your life? This can be awkward at first but I guarantee you that the person will stop complaining, at least in front of you.

 

There was a time that a member of our family was going through some drama and every time we got together, we talked about this person, for the most part trying to come up with a solution, which is a way to justify gossip. My daughter Alinda would wake us up by saying: I HAVE AN IDEA. Let’s go around the table and say, what its going well in our lives. Now we avoid the subject altogether.

 

Another reason for complaining is to remove responsibility. This is what I call, the devil made me do it syndrome. Or the dog ate my homework. These are the people that are habitually late and always complain about the traffic. At work, it is always someone else’s fault why they could not meet a deadline.

Anthony Robbins, suggest asking this person: If it was possible, How would you do it?

If asking, “If this was possible, how might you do it?” does not shift the person away from his or her “Yes, buts,” simply say, “I have faith in your ability to figure out a way to accomplish this.” Then, with every complaining justification as to how impossible the task is, simply repeat, “I have faith in your ability to figure out a way to accomplish.

 

(Ppt) In his book The Presence Process, Michael Brown accurately breaks down the word “blame” as to “be lame.” A person who complains to blame the world and other people for his or her life is being lame; that person feels powerless to make things better.

 

 

Inspire Envy

 

Gossip is complaining to inspire envy. When you gossip, you should switch your bracelet. The underlying message behind gossip is that the gossip feels superior to the person being gossiped about and wants you to acknowledge this. Gossip is speaking negatively about someone who is not present. I’m not saying you can’t talk about other people. What I’m suggesting is that you: 1. Talk only about the positive traits of those who are absent 2. Say the same things and with the same inflection that you would say if the person was present

 

GOSSIP VIDEO HERE

Complaining as a way of gaining power, is very common during the politics. The technique is used by professionals to dig as much dirt as possible on the opposing candidate, in order to persuade the voters away from that candidate. At work it’s about complaining about a co worker to diminish his or her power in front of the employer

 

Excuse poor performance

 

George Forman tried to make a comeback to fighting when he was 40 years old. Everything was going well up to the time that his own team made a mistake, thinking they were ahead and told him to take it easy during the last round. He followed the advise and as a result lost his one chance to the Heavy Weight Championship.   Yet, he was gracious about it and did not complain.   Turn out to be that later he became champion again and after that a very successful sports commentator and businessman.

 

What can you do next time to avoid this is a good question to ask the person that is always complaining to excuse poor performance.

 

CLOSE

 

 

Breake the next two weeks for Palm Sunday and Easter

 

 

 

 

 

Conscious Incompetency March 26, 2017

Intro: Scripture (PPT)

 

Matthew 7:3Modern English Version (MEV)

“And why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank that is in your own eye?

 

Well, good morning again. This is the third talk of a series based on the book, A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen. The first lesson was an introduction, and tried to make us aware of how complaining is pretty much part of the human condition and is embedded in our genes, so to speak, in many different ways, religiously culturally, socially, etc. Last week we began to look at various stages of competency when it comes to complaining. Specifically we talked about, (PPT) Unconscious Incompetency, which is the stage in which we are not even aware not only of complaining but of how much we complain, particularly those of us that otherwise would consider ourselves positive thinkers and non complainers.

 

In today’s talk we will address the stage of (PPT) Conscious Incompetency. In this stage we have made peace with the fact that we complain. We are also going to navigate some interesting waters by talking about how complaining can be detrimental to our most treasured relationships. However, my intention is how are we going to come up with a spiritual solution to this issue of complaining. I believe that I would not be serving you well if I did not bring Spiritual Truth to these talks. We have established that already from the perspective of the Law of Attraction, complaining doesn’t do us any good whatsoever, because complaining places the focus and emphasis in that which we do not want.

 

In certain circles it is observed that when men get together, sooner or later the topic of conversation of complaining about the women in the lives of those men comes up. But, wait a minute. It is not only the men. Women, apparently do the same thing. And I ask myself, does that make any sense? I do not think it does. The sad part in all of this is that quite often men that are good husbands, good fathers and good providers, sometimes yield to peer and social pressure and go along in participating of these conversations, when indeed, the theme of those conversations is not part of their reality. Sadly enough, sometimes these conversations influence the participants so much that when they get home, they continue to play that role. I am not saying that such role originated in the social meeting; perhaps is the other way around.

 

(PPT) “Becoming Complaint Free means beginning to practice healthy communication skills. It is not complaining to speak directly and only to the person who can resolve an issue. This seems obvious, but it is not the norm for most people. When most people are unhappy with their boss, they complain to their spouse. When they are displeased with their spouse, they complain to their friends. They speak to anyone and everyone except the person who can actually improve the situation, and they live in disappointment and bewilderment, wondering why their relationships don’t improve”. –Will Bowen-

 

Sometimes, misery loves company. It is as though we here a person complaining and we want to out complain that person the is a classic clip that illustrates this.

 

Four Yorkshiremen,” which was released on their 1974 album Live at Drury Lane.

Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted (p. 95). Potter/TenSpeed/Harmony. Kindle Edition.

 

Will Bowen points out that when you present a legitimate complaint to the person that can do something about it, it is not a complaint. You are simply being authentic about a need that you have. Now, when instead of doing that we gossip about the person that we are complaining about, then it becomes what we call triangulation.

 

Will continues to point out that we can approach healthy relationships in two ways. First, you end up having fun, spending most of your time with a person that you like and are compatible in many different ways. Second is a learning experience that allow us to work through issues that we may or may not have from the time we were little.

 

One thing that I discovered in ministerial training is that usually, when we do not like something in another person, it is because we ourselves have the same trait and do not like it about ourselves to begin with. It is called the theory of the shadow, which was espoused by the psychologist Carl Jung. It is hard pill to swallow, but believe me, it is the absolute truth even though I did not accept it for a very long time.

The Scripture that I shared with you at the beginning of the lesson can be used as a reflection tool whenever we feel the urge to complain about another person or speak unkindly about that person and so forth.

 

Now, there is some good news associated with that. It also works in a positive way. Whatever character trait you admire on another person, is because you have that trait as well.

 

Where is Truth and Spirituality in al this, Complaint Free Business? Well, let us remember that we do not exist and have our being in a vacuum. We are spiritual beings, living in a spiritual world, which is governed by spiritual laws.

 

We also believe in Omnipresence of Spirit, therefore God is in every thing, through everything and as everything. When it comes to the world of relationships, it is important to remember that, yes, God is everywhere and in every person including in you and I. Now, God, or Spirit is also in the person that is giving us a reason to complain. This is the time where we must look beyond the appearances and approach things with compassion.

 

Stephen Covey wrote a story in the 7 Habits of Highly efficient people about one day that he was traveling in the Subway, and there was a fellow passenger with four small children that were running wild and jumping over seats and other passengers and the gentleman did not seem to care about the behavior of his children. He was in some sort of a daze while his continued to irritate the surrounding passengers. Finally, Mr. Covey decided to approach the man about the situation; when the man suddenly woke up from his daze and said that they were returning from the hospital where, his wife and the mother of the children had died that morning, and he was trying to figure out how was going to tell the children.

 

Again, it is OK to complain as long as it is done without the energy of criticism, put downs or attack. And whenever we feel the urge to complaint or criticize, we can always, affirm, there is but one presence and one power; all is well and enfolding as it should.

 

Next week we will look at some specific reason why complain and how to break that habit.

 

I like to close with a personal story about someone that had a reason to complain, yet she chose to say. Here Comes the Sun and All You Need is Love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Unconscious Incompetence March 19

(PPT) “When any fit of gloominess, or perversion of mind, lays hold upon you, make it a rule not to publish it by complaints.” —SAMUEL JOHNSON

 

Good Morning, today is the second talk of a combined series. And I say, combined, because during the Lenten season, I like to bring into the equation the book, Keep a True Lent, by our Co-Founder, Charles Fillmore. As you know we in Unity celebrate Lent by practicing abstinence from negativity. One of the ways that we can be negative is by complaining, criticizing, gossiping or using sarcasm. As because of this, we are challenging everyone, yours truly included to abstain from doing any of those things, complaining, criticizing, gossiping or using sarcasm for a total of 21 days. This is not easy. I haven’t gone beyond 3 or four days without having to start all over. To help us keep track, we can use these bracelets that are available or you can simply download the app that is available for our mobile devices.   I believe that the first step in being able to live a complain free life is become aware of how frequently we complain.

 

And I have bad news and good news. The bad news is that we all do it. Yep, even us positive thinkers and Unity people. Here is what someone that was trying to do the challenge had to say.

 

(PPT) Like most of the other folks who took up the Complaint Free Challenge, I quickly discovered exactly how many of the words I spoke in daily interactions were complaints. For the first time, I really heard myself when I vented about work, whined about my aches and pains, bemoaned political and world issues, and complained about the weather. What a shock to realize how many of my words held negative energy— and I considered myself such a positive person! —MARTY POINTER, KANSAS CITY, MISSOURI
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I am here to remind us all that we all do it. We just don’t realize it. And before we go on, let’s make one thing clear. There are people that want to bring their thoughts into the challenge. That’s not going to work, and I am going to tell you why. We think an average of 70,000 thoughts per day. There is no way to monitor that. And, by the way, if we get to control the voicing of our complains, the thoughts will take care of themselves.

 

I love the analogy that Will Bowen talks about in the book.

 

There is a lot of talk about the economy these days. And one of the basic laws of any economy in any part of the world is the law of supply and demand. There are always consumers of products and manufacturers for the products that the consumers are demanding.

 

Well let’s pretend that our mind is the manufacturer in this case, and our mouth is the consumer. It works this way; The mind, or the manufacturer, produces a negative thought. (That’s the product) The mouth, or the consumer, purchases the product by complaining. The more the mouth purchases negative products from the mind,(or complains) the more the more products the mind will continue to manufacture, or supply, simply because there is a DEMAND for its products.

 

Now. What do you think is going to happen when the mouth says: I am not buying that junk anymore, which happens, of course when the mouth stops complaining? This is what’s going to happen. The brain’s Board of Directors is going to meet and they are going to decide to change their product line from negative to positive, because that is what the consumer (the mouth) is buying now.

 

When the mouth consciously chooses to by words of gratitude, praise, appreciation, compliments, etc., that is what the mind will begin to produce on a regular basis. The old adage, thoughts held in mind, produce after their kind, means exactly that. The old adage, thoughts held in mind, produce after their kind, means exactly that. The more positive thoughts we think, the more are produced.

 

The author identifies 4 stages that we go through in becoming compliant free people.

 

 

  1. Unconscious Incompetence
  2. Conscious Incompetence
  3. Conscious Competence
  4. Unconscious Competence

 

The first one, (PPT) Unconscious Competence. This is when we don’t know that we don’t know. In this case, is when we do not realize when we complain and that we actually complain a lot. You know? Some people may be like this:

 

(Play Eyore Video here.)

 

 

 

Now, before we get to far into this issue of complaining, there are two things that I need to tell you. This is fully connected to Unity’s third basic principle, which says that the thoughts we hold in mind do affect our reality, like I said before in the economy analogy. The other thing is that we need to establish a clear difference between a complain and a statement of fact.

Eckart Tolle, explained it this way. (PPT)

 

Complaining is not to be confused with informing someone of a mistake or deficiency so that it can be put right. And to refrain from complaining doesn’t necessarily mean putting up with bad quality or behavior. There is no ego in telling the waiter your soup is cold and needs to be heated up— if you stick to the facts, which are always neutral. “How dare you serve me cold soup … ?” That’s complaining.

 

We can get up in the middle of the night and hit our toe against the foot of the bed and scream in pain for a little while, and that’s OK. Another thing would be to go through life saying ouch about everything in our life such as our pains and aches, our significant other, our children, the weather, politics, our boss or co-workers. That person, does not understand that the more he or she complains, more stuff to complain about shows up in his or her life. Like the author points out, it’s a classic case of the law of attraction in action or an ouch waiting to happen.

 

Have you ever gone to the doctor and have been told to take a medication that does not taste very good? Yet, we start taking it because it is the right thing to do and at the beginning it is a struggle because the medicine tastes really bad. Yet, in a couple of days, you realize that the medicine is working and and you start feeling better, and whatever was there before you took the medicine, begins to fade away. I’ts a nice feeling, isn’t it? Well a person from Bosnia wrote the author saying that he was really trying to do the 21-day challenge, but that he had not been able to go passed day 4. He added that in the process he had become a happier person and asked if that was supposed to happen. Of course, the author laughed and realized that he should had put a warning on the book, saying, trying this challenge can make you a happier person.

 

I would like to close with a quote from the book.

 

(PPT) Everyone who has become a Twenty-One-Day Complaint Free Champion has said to me, “It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.” Nothing valuable is ever easy. Simple? Yes.

 

But “easy” is not part of becoming a successful person. I say this not to discourage you but to inspire you. If you find becoming a Complaint Free person (monitoring and changing your words) difficult, it doesn’t mean that you can’t do it.

 

And it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. M. H. Alderson said, “If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about average.” If you’re complaining, you’re right where you’re supposed to be. Now you’re becoming aware of it and you can begin to erase it from your life.

Next week we will look at the next stage in becoming a compliant free and therefore a happier person.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Unconscious Incompetence

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(PPT) “When any fit of gloominess, or perversion of mind, lays hold upon you, make it a rule not to publish it by complaints.” —SAMUEL JOHNSON

Good Morning, today is the second talk of a combined series. And I say, combined, because during the Lenten season, I like to bring into the equation the book, Keep a True Lent, by our Co-Founder, Charles Fillmore. As you know we in Unity celebrate Lent by practicing abstinence from negativity. One of the ways that we can be negative is by complaining, criticizing, gossiping or using sarcasm. As because of this, we are challenging everyone, yours truly included to abstain from doing any of those things, complaining, criticizing, gossiping or using sarcasm for a total of 21 days. This is not easy. I haven’t gone beyond 3 or four days without having to start all over. To help us keep track, we can use these bracelets that are available or you can simply download the app that is available for our mobile devices. I believe that the first step in being able to live a complain free life is become aware of how frecuently we complain.

And I have bad news and good news. The bad news is that we all do it. Yep, even us positive thinkers and Unity people. Here is what someone that was trying to do the challenge had ➠to say.

(PPT) Like most of the other folks who took up the Complaint Free Challenge, I quickly discovered exactly how many of the words I spoke in daily interactions were complaints. For the first time, I really heard myself when I vented about work, whined about my aches and pains, bemoaned political and world issues, and complained about the weather. What a shock to realize how many of my words held negative energy— and I considered myself such a positive person! —MARTY POINTER, KANSAS CITY, MISSOURI .

I am here to remind us all that we all do it. We just don’t realize it. And before we go on, let’s make one thing clear. There are people that want to bring their thoughts into the challenge. That’s not going to work, and I am going to tell you why. We think an average of 70,000 thoughts per day. There is no way to monitor that. And, by the way, if we get to control the voicing of our complains, the thoughts will take care of themselves.

I love the analogy that Will Bowen talks about in the book.

There is a lot of talk about the economy these days. And one of the basic laws of any economy in any part of the world is the law of supply and demand. There are always consumers of products and manufacturers for the products that the consumers are demanding.

Well let’s pretend that our mind is the manufacturer in this case, and our mouth is the consumer. It works this way; The mind, or the manufacturer, produces a negative thought. (That’s the product) The mouth, or the consumer, purchases the product by complaining. The more the mouth purchases negative products from the mind,(or complains) the more the more products the mind will continue to manufacture, or supply, simply because there is a DEMAND for its products.

Now. What do you think is going to happen when the mouth says: I am not buying that junk anymore, which happens, of course when the mouth stops complaining? This is what’s going to happen. The brain’s Board of Directors is going to meet and they are going to decide to change their product line from negative to positive, because that is what the consumer (the mouth) is buying now.

When the mouth consciously chooses to by words of gratitude, praise, appreciation, compliments, etc., that is what the mind will begin to produce on a regular basis. The old adage, thoughts held in mind, produce after their kind, means exactly that. The old adage, thoughts held in mind, produce after their kind, means exactly that. The more positive thoughts we think, the more are produced.

The author identifies 4 stages that we go through in becoming compliant free people.

1. Unconscious Incompetence
2. Conscious Incompetence
3. Conscious Competence
4. Unconscious Competence

The first one, (PPT) Unconscious Competence. This is when we don’t know that we don’t know. In this case, is when we do not realize when we complain and that we actually complain a lot. You know? Some people may be like this:

(Play Eyore Video here.)

Now, before we get to far into this issue of complaining, there are two things that I need to tell you. This is fully connected to Unity’s third basic principle, which says that the thoughts we hold in mind do affect our reality, like I said before in the economy analogy. The other thing is that we need to establish a clear difference between a complain and a statement of fact.
Eckart Tolle, explained it this way. (PPT)

Complaining is not to be confused with informing someone of a mistake or deficiency so that it can be put right. And to refrain from complaining doesn’t necessarily mean putting up with bad quality or behavior. There is no ego in telling the waiter your soup is cold and needs to be heated up— if you stick to the facts, which are always neutral. “How dare you serve me cold soup … ?” That’s complaining.

We can get up in the middle of the night and hit our toe against the foot of the bed and scream in pain for a little while, and that’s OK. Another thing would be to go through life saying ouch about everything in our life such as our pains and aches, our significant other, our children, the weather, politics, our boss or co-workers. That person, does not understand that the more he or she complains, more stuff to complain about shows up in his or her life. Like the author points out, it’s a classic case of the law of attraction in action or an ouch waiting to happen.

Have you ever gone to the doctor and have been told to take a medication that does not taste very good? Yet, we start taking it because it is the right thing to do and at the beginning it is a struggle because the medicine tastes really bad. Yet, in a couple of days, you realize that the medicine is working and and you start feeling better, and whatever was there before you took the medicine, begins to fade away. I’ts a nice feeling, isn’t it? Well a person from Bosnia wrote the author saying that he was really trying to do the 21-day challenge, but that he had not been able to go passed day 4. He added that in the process he had become a happier person and asked if that was supposed to happen. Of course, the author laughed and realized that he should had put a warning on the book, saying, trying this challenge can make you a happier person.

I would like to close with a quote from the book.

(PPT) Everyone who has become a Twenty-One-Day Complaint Free Champion has said to me, “It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.” Nothing valuable is ever easy. Simple? Yes.

But “easy” is not part of becoming a successful person. I say this not to discourage you but to inspire you. If you find becoming a Complaint Free person (monitoring and changing your words) difficult, it doesn’t mean that you can’t do it.

And it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. M. H. Alderson said, “If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about average.” If you’re complaining, you’re right where you’re supposed to be. Now you’re becoming aware of it and you can begin to erase it from your life.
Next week we will look at the next stage in becoming a compliant free and therefore a happier person.

Sunday Message: The Complaint Free Challenge: Rev Coco Ramos

Intro: (PPT)

If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. —MAYA ANGELOU

 

Good morning again. Today I am combining the closing of one series and the opening of another. Why am I doing this? Well, honestly, because timing. And what do I mean by timing? Well on one end, today is supposed to be the last of the series of talks based on the book, The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity. At the same time, last Wednesday was Ash Wednesday, marking the beginning of Lent. I had been praying for discernment trying to decide what our new Sunday series was going to be, when one of you approached me and ask if I could revisit the series based on the book, A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen, a book that we discuss here 7 years ago. Furthermore, the person that made the suggestion observed that there is so much complaining going on in our country, and that complaining, whether justified or not, is obviously not the solution. That, of course, got me thinking about the Lenten Season.

 

In Unity we celebrate Lent not by fasting from food or any other thing that we may consider a luxury or that sort of thing. In Unity we use the Lenten season to do an intentional fast from negative thinking, negative speaking and negative everything.

 

That is where the complaint free book comes in handy. The Complaint Free World is a movement that began back in 2006 by Unity Minister Will Bowen, the author of the book. The basic premise is to do an exercise of going 21 days without complaining, criticizing, gossiping or using sarcasm.

 

Easy, right? Well not necessarily. But it is possible. They way it is supposed to work is by wearing these bracelets as a reminder. Every time that you catch yourself complaining, criticizing, gossiping or using sarcasm, you change your bracelet to the other hand and the 21 days start all over. Now, in the last revision of the book the author announced that there is an app for those of us that prefer to use technology. They say, that the average person takes 6 months of trying before he or she can go 21 days without complaining. It took the author 8 months the first time he tried it. Now, how does not complaining tie in with Divine Purpose and prosperity?

(PPT) Complaining never attracts what you want; it perpetuates what you do not want. As Wayne Dyer put it, “If you’re not happy with what you have, then why would you want more?” The first step toward prosperity in all its forms is to be grateful for what we currently possess, and we can’t complain about what we have and be grateful at the same time. “If you’re not happy with what you have, then why would you want more?” —DR. WAYNE DYER

 

The question then is, what would our world look like if more and more people would make their Divine Purpose to live their life appreciating, praising, admiring, complimenting and thanking instead of complaining?

 

(Humor about the Nun that quit after 30 years in a Silent Convent)

 

The truth is that these days there is a lot of complaining going on. I am staying out of politics; I have never addressed politics from the pulpit and do not intend to begin now. My purpose in introducing this talk is to create an awareness and somehow help to lift the consciousness of our church and our community about the amount of complaining that goes one day after day, and that ultimately complaining does not lead to anything.

 

I believe that it is only when, we do an intentional exercise in not complaining that we can become fully aware about how much we personally complain.

 

Edwene in her book tells the story about when she became aware of how much she complained. Actually someone told her to stop complaining. (that someone used the b word not the c word, if you know what I mean.) Then she went forward with the exercise of not complaining, criticizing, etc., and pretty soon realized that she did not have anything to talk about.

 

The awareness of complaining is very much like the awareness of people smoking. Back in 97 you could not smoke in most restaurants in Florida. We sort off took that for granted. In that year, however we moved to Missouri, where those laws were not in place. We almost stopped going out to dinner. I am not being critical or complaining, I used to be a smoker. I am just trying to make a point, to make us aware that only when we make an intentional exercise of not to complain, you will begin to notice not only how much other people complain and, of course, how much we complain. It can be about politics, the weather, too hot, too cold, and too humid, our spouses, our children, Sports, Monday morning quarterbacking, our aches and pain, our working conditions, our boss, our co-workers. And let us remember what I shared at the beginning:

 

(PPT)

If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain. —MAYA ANGELOU

 

When we complain, we are basically placing our attention in that which we do not want.

  1. Law of Mind Action. Law of Attraction
  2. When we use words to complain, these words are usually the results of the kind of thoughts we have been holding. Thoughts held in mind, produce after their kind. Enough of these kind of thoughts, produce feelings and emotions, which in turn, create the necessary energy to bring about an external manifestation
  3. Quote Will Bowen. A complainer is an “ouch” waiting for a hurt.

 

iii.      The Universe (GOD) always responds according to our thoughts and to our words. Our prayers are always being answered according to the things we choose to focus on.   I love this quote from the book:

 

(PPT)   “If I were to say, ‘God, why me?’ about the bad things, then I should have said, ‘God, why me?’ about the good things that happened in my life.” Arthur Ashe.

 

Starting our 21-Day challenge goes hand in hand with our tradition of lent. The following statement by Charles Fillmore sums up the kind of consciousness that can fuel the mind shift that is necessary for you and I to be successful in our quest to live a complaint free life.

 

(PPT) Jesus did not take the universe on His shoulders by affirming His self-sufficiency. He unloaded every burden and rested in the all-sufficiency of the Father. “I can of myself do nothing”; “the Father abiding in me does his works.” This is the total denial of self–the giving up of all personal desires, claims, and aims. Before man can do this successfully he must change his ideas, there must be a mental house cleaning Fillmore, Charles- Keep a True Lent

Next week we will look at four stages that we will go through in developing the consciousness of being a complaint free person trying to create a complaint free world.